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Broken Homes
Now this is the case where the "Me" is most significant, and the "We" is mainly non-existent. A broken home is a home in which one or more "Me's" live in, and as we must all understand, marriage is NOT for the "Me" person, marriage is about sacrificing your "Me" for the "Us" one way or the other, and at the same time clinging to some of your closest "Me" things that do not affect your role as a plural worker.
In a broken down home one or both of the participants are not willing to sacrifice any or some of their "self-centred" lives, and suddenly they find out that marriage is not just a bed of roses, once the romance fades, other things appear, which require more cooperation and less selfishness. Well, let's say that does not happen, none of them are willing to give, they just want to gain and get themselves satisfied the most, which cannot be, simply because life is NOT like that at all.
Broken home major possible "extreme" effects:
- One of the major things that happen inside broken homes, is that each of the two parents try their best to attract the children to their side, thus each being the bigger spoiler than the other, thus meaning that we can kiss "proper raising" goodbye. The kid in this case does not only become a "Late Me spoiled". Add to that a kind of cunningness gained from their role models (*or those people who cannot sort out their troubles but we are making use of them right*), the cunningness that makes a Dad give something out to the kids so they could be on their side. So the Mom replies with something similar. Home is an intelligence agency, a constant war, so what do you think the outcome could be? Another "Me" injected into society.
- Another type of broken homes were the absolute opposite to what's written above happens, the kids feel they are not important at all, they feel like they are nothing, all the parents do are fight, split up and everyone of them is trying to throw the responsibility to the other. "Me" at it's best. So the kid does the absolute first thing he finds in order to attract their attention, and since he's just a kid, then what he does is childish. Then his life just becomes a series of acts to 'draw attention' and feel important. Self-centered of course, another 'Me', with a gentle touch of aggressiveness. The goal of his life is to just feel important trying to compensate the horrors his "Me" had seen as a child. Another "Me" injected into society.
*Sigh*
To those who come from broken homes, take care, you are humans, and humans are distinguished with their brains. Humans are not just a bundle of thoughtless emotions. Brains CONTROL the emotions. Now you are supposed to be old enough to realise why you are who you are. Now you know the problem, so now is the time to stop blaming other people, now is the time to, "Take cautions not to fall into their same mistake", or else what is your brain doing up there inside your head if you're not going to learn from other people's mistakes?
We surveyed some extremes in the past few posts. Next we will start taking a look upon more moderate cases, trying to highlight the mistakes in their systems, and God is the Helper.
Now this is the case where the "Me" is most significant, and the "We" is mainly non-existent. A broken home is a home in which one or more "Me's" live in, and as we must all understand, marriage is NOT for the "Me" person, marriage is about sacrificing your "Me" for the "Us" one way or the other, and at the same time clinging to some of your closest "Me" things that do not affect your role as a plural worker.
In a broken down home one or both of the participants are not willing to sacrifice any or some of their "self-centred" lives, and suddenly they find out that marriage is not just a bed of roses, once the romance fades, other things appear, which require more cooperation and less selfishness. Well, let's say that does not happen, none of them are willing to give, they just want to gain and get themselves satisfied the most, which cannot be, simply because life is NOT like that at all.
Broken home major possible "extreme" effects:
- One of the major things that happen inside broken homes, is that each of the two parents try their best to attract the children to their side, thus each being the bigger spoiler than the other, thus meaning that we can kiss "proper raising" goodbye. The kid in this case does not only become a "Late Me spoiled". Add to that a kind of cunningness gained from their role models (*or those people who cannot sort out their troubles but we are making use of them right*), the cunningness that makes a Dad give something out to the kids so they could be on their side. So the Mom replies with something similar. Home is an intelligence agency, a constant war, so what do you think the outcome could be? Another "Me" injected into society.
- Another type of broken homes were the absolute opposite to what's written above happens, the kids feel they are not important at all, they feel like they are nothing, all the parents do are fight, split up and everyone of them is trying to throw the responsibility to the other. "Me" at it's best. So the kid does the absolute first thing he finds in order to attract their attention, and since he's just a kid, then what he does is childish. Then his life just becomes a series of acts to 'draw attention' and feel important. Self-centered of course, another 'Me', with a gentle touch of aggressiveness. The goal of his life is to just feel important trying to compensate the horrors his "Me" had seen as a child. Another "Me" injected into society.
*Sigh*
To those who come from broken homes, take care, you are humans, and humans are distinguished with their brains. Humans are not just a bundle of thoughtless emotions. Brains CONTROL the emotions. Now you are supposed to be old enough to realise why you are who you are. Now you know the problem, so now is the time to stop blaming other people, now is the time to, "Take cautions not to fall into their same mistake", or else what is your brain doing up there inside your head if you're not going to learn from other people's mistakes?
We surveyed some extremes in the past few posts. Next we will start taking a look upon more moderate cases, trying to highlight the mistakes in their systems, and God is the Helper.
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