Stages

A "normal" human being passes through three main stages in his life.
1. The “you”. 2. The “me”. 3. The “we”.

Allow me to explain further:

1. The “You”
As a child, a human being is always counting on other people around him to satisfy his different needs. For example, a baby cries in order for the people around him to work on feeding him. As he grows older he is always demanding that "You" give me, “You” feed me, “You” take me to the bathroom, etc.

2. The “Me”
As a human grows a little older, and walks into his teenage years, the human nature inside him starts feeling the need for some independence and self-satisfaction. So he starts thinking, "Me" wants to do something, "Me" gets it. Or "Me" tries to think of a way to get it, of course asking other people in the process. The difference here is that a child asks anyone. As one gets older he becomes more specific and focused, thus asking the right people, most of the time.

3. The “We”
A man, a real man that is, starts thinking of the needs of not only himself, but of others around him. Maturity and responsibility becomes an asset in his life. He starts having a family, thinking of their needs; so he does not only act for himself, he acts for those he cares about. "We" want something, so I get it for us, etc.

Now we can apply the same concept in thinking, "Whatever is wrong is wrong with __ ", but in reverse. The stages of human development are as follows, in order.

1. Whatever is wrong is wrong with You:
This is the lowest standard of human thinking. We all thought so at a certain stage of our lives, and it should be known that once a person starts thinking that way, they become the worst of them all. This is since this attitude simply contains arrogance (Kebr), and the only Majestic (Motakabber) is Allah.

2. I have got to fix Me:
This attitude is not bad, it is a good start, a little more mature. But don't fall into the trap of "I’ll start making people's lives better only when My life is better". Don't be that selfish, don't be that negative, because actually you might end up getting worse. You alone are weak against the winds of time.

3. I have to fix us, we are all going wrong:

Now that's what I'm talking about. You don't just work on yourself, you work on people when you see them go wrong. Don't be like the first type, just complaining and complaining, but doing nothing in the end. The highest form of human actions is those who tend to improve the lives of many, not the lives of their own individuals. Keep that in mind, and pray for us all to be of that type.

Now can you relate the first three types to the second three types of human behaviour? In the next message we will have a look at our society, and how those three types are always transforming and mutating into a negative manner within it. Eventually and hopefully we will try to figure out a way to make better people out of ourselves, and to try to think of how to raise a new generation out of our own.